The only thing constant is consistent change. This ancient axiom can reveal a great deal of information in regard to life, if one were to only examine it with an open mind. Having an open mind is essential to understanding the very nature of life itself.

As one moves through this phase of life, the number of encounters with fellow human beings are indeed numerous. However, it must be realized, that all interactions occur in an ordered fashion. For instance, how many times have you learned something and, not soon thereafter, the opportunity to use that which has been learned presents itself? More often than not to be certain. Nevertheless, the ability to be aware of this phenomenon is somewhat covered in the "sham drudgery of everyday life."

Iyanla Vanzant, author of Acts of Faith, reminds us that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Sometime these persons may cause what we consider hurt, but the experience of their presence provided some nourishment for the next encounter. Such a concept can be applied to relationships as well.

In our dealings with one another on a more personal level, we have a tendency to throw all understandings concerning knowledge out the window. However, if we remember that, "the only thing constant is consistent change," our relationships can be more fruitful.

Given the socialization of many, the idea that relationships should remain the same, "as when I first met you," is the norm. However, just as one evolves through life, so does one who is involved in a relationship. It's simply a matter of how you choose to allow the change to impact you. (Remember earlier the statement about the number of encounters which have a cumulative effect on the next). Who knows, perhaps the change will be for the better. Just a thought.

For instance, if there is a "bad experience" in a relationship, such an instance has the potential to manifest itself as having been the "best thing that could have happened."

As we move along this continuum, it must be born in mind, that we are creatures of participation. As we participate in the process of evolution, we should grow into our "selves." It is through this process of "growing," and by not attempting to impede the process of evolution, that we become better persons.

On a subconscious level, we know all of that which is spoken, but on a conscious level, the cacophony of physical existence has overshadowed this reality for many. However, what must be remembered, is that if we truly are to become better people through the process of the evolution of consciousness, we should seek to apply the introductory axiom into our lives. For it is only through the process of thinking on our experiences, that we realize that they are connected in an orderly fashion. This can go a long way in revealing the learning aspect of relationships. Remember, everything is not just, but nothing just happens. Peace.

Column originally published in Signal (Georgia State University's student newspaper) 04 February 1997